You Found Me

Theme of the Week –

Reaching Out/Connection

Song of the Week –

'You Found Me" by the Fray 

Song Therapeutics Analysis-

Being that it is the start of December and the beginning of the holiday season, I am thrilled to be able to feature this very powerful song by the Denver based band, the Fray.  In particular, I think it is an excellent one to offer right now.  Their music is always outstanding and in the future I plan to focus on more of it here on  I find the lyrics of many of their songs so emotionally profound, with very meaningful messages, touching on a variety of life based themes.  The lyrics here ask us to dig pretty deep within ourselves.  Reflections of our belief system, religious faith, essential values, our personal journey dealing with life and relationships.  The lead vocals are flawless within a beautiful musical background, where specifically, the piano performance stands out.  It is my hope that in 2021, the Fray will continue to provide new music selections to further inspire us as listeners.

We look forward to the start of every holiday season as a joyous time of celebration, rejoicing, festive coming together with family and friends, gift giving, and important end of the year reflections.  This year, with the intense changes and restrictions forced by the reality of the Covid pandemic, it will be tremendously different and will require much forced adjustment on our part.  It may not be as “Merry” as it once was, or, what we are used to.  This year we may need to look inward and concentrate more on the true meaning of the Christmas season.  That is, finding comfort and contentment with that aspect, rather than the standard social holiday celebrations that we previously expected in our old normal.

The truth is, regardless of the pandemic, many people may actually struggle emotionally throughout the holiday season.  They may view the year ending as one filled with personal disappointment, regrets, sadness, loneliness and loss.  We, as psychotherapy providers, always see an increase in intake calls from people in need preceding and during the holiday season.  It is indeed a vulnerable time for many and we need to be alert and responsive to this.  Specifically, we need to be ready and available to reach out and connect with others who may need our helping hand.

With these intense, emotional lyrics that touch on the universal needs to… be there, reach out, connect, and especially, give love and caring, the message is perfectly clear.  Bottomline, isn’t love and caring the foundation of everything that life is about? Love is the core that makes us do all these great thing for others.  If anything, do it for love.  I find this song is a plea for all of us to be aware and present for those in need.  They may not outwardly show or voice the struggle to us directly, but in many cases, it’s there, waiting and hoping for someone, somewhere, to be a safety net.  So many feelings are reflected throughout the lyrics… that of insecurity, bewilderment, loneliness, confusion, anger and sadness.  When you feel some days, it’s difficult to put one foot in front of the other.  But somehow, you find the inherent will and determination to do it, with a sense of optimism, a hope eternal, for someone to embrace you with love and caring.  For others, they may still be out there struggling, continuing to wait for some sign, from someone.

In today’s fast paced world where so much is expected or demanded of us every day, life can sometimes be draining.  The thought… so much to do, so little time, with limited energy, is indeed, true.  Yet, we have to try to make the time, to find the time, not only for ourselves, but for others around us who basically, need us.  Because they may be silent about their struggles, we must become aware and present as much as we possibly can.  Why and what are we waiting for?  What is the purpose in holding it back? What is stopping us from ultimately taking action?  Consider making that long awaited phone call, finally make that overdue visit, send a text message, send an email, letter or card.  Don’t allow regrets to enter the picture here and complicate things.  Let someone know you are thinking of them today and that you’re there for them.  Knowing they are loved and cared for, may make such a significant difference in someone’s world and personal outlook going forward.  It may turn everything around for them, and in the process, be such a source of joy for you!  Not only during the Christmas holidays, but throughout the year!!


Takeaway Thought for the Week Ahead -

Takeaway positive thoughts empower you, give you strength, make you believe. Here is yours for the week. Say it, several times a day, every day, memorize it, write it down or put it in your phone. During the week, think about it, rely on it as you make it your own.

As we reflect on this most challenging past year and think about approaching the new one with a positive, hopeful perspective, remember…it’s never too late to reach out to someone in need.  It’s never to late to show someone you care.  Give the time and effort because simply, you will never regret it.  Wouldn’t you want someone to do the same for you when you’re struggling? Pay the love forward, yes, do it for them, but also, do it for you.

I cannot stress enough, the tremendous power of affirmative positive thinking in life. Positive self-talk and empowering beliefs over time can seriously help us change the way we think about ourselves. Like the well known term, “Self-Fulfilling Prophecy”, if we come to believe and act on it, it can become part of who you are, and what you want to be.

With "You Found Me" available to be on your personal playlist, it will be ready when you want to listen to it’s significant message!! Use it going forward!

Mindfulness & The Music/Questions to Ask Yourself & Self-Reflect -

After listening to the song, take some time and give these questions some serious thought. Your answers here will reveal a great deal to you going forward. Use this opportunity for helpful self reflection…

If given the opportunity, do you generally reach out to people you know?  

If not, why do you feel you don’t?  Being perfectly honest, are there factors that prevent you from doing so? If so, can you specify them?

Are you aware of people in your world who are struggling emotionally? Can you identify them and provide any reasons why?

Are you comfortable being around and encouraging those people?  If not, why not?

Are there specific things you can actively do to help them feel better?

Do you feel you are an open, emotionally giving type of person?

Do you routinely take the time to check up or check in with friends?

Do you follow through with keeping in regular touch with your friends?  In what way/s?

Do you feel that people reach out to you when you are in need?  How do you generally respond to that? Do you find it personally helpful?



Recommended Reading for the Week About Music & Song

The Last Playlist: A Sonic Epitaph by P.A.Kane

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