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Theme of the Week –

Addiction

Song of the Week –

"Sober" by Pink 

Song Therapeutics Analysis-

The reality in today’s complicated world is, addictions are all around us.  Sadly, they can control us, take away our sense of direction, and leave us desperately struggling.  Addictions can slowly start to overtake a person, but can quickly overwhelm.  The first step in attempting to effectively conquer addiction is self discovery and acknowledging you may be experiencing difficulty, and, you may have a problem managing it.

Audio Version narrated by Nancy

Often, the most demanding part is admitting to yourself that things may have gotten out of control.  Honesty is so important, being able to realistically face your demons and do something constructive about them.  Facing the challenge and doing the work necessary to make it happen for you.  Your self awareness and self reflection can be such an essential tool to jump start the whole process.  We all have a storage of deep inner strength within ourselves.  Sometimes it can get buried over time and can be painstaking to find.  The reality is, that genuine resilient spirit is there, ready and waiting to be called upon when needed, especially useful when addictions may immobilize us.

As a talented co-writer, this is another one of Pink’s most powerful message songs, dealing with the theme of alcohol addiction.  She delivers it in such a meaningful, straightforward style that just captivates you while listening.  Her voice is just hauntingly beautiful, soulful, yet so full of pain and raw truth that you can’t escape.  For those who struggle with alcohol issues, this song can actually be so liberating!

In the song, the woman appears to be at an ultimate crossroads, in terms of her assessing her mental struggle with alcohol.  It looks like after a long time, she is finally confident and ready to make a significant change in her life when it comes to alcohol usage.  She is trying to break free of the same old habits and negative patterns that have proved detrimental to her, feeling comfort and safety there.  The high and low feelings, the exhaustion, the drastic mood swings, feeling so very good but then feeling so very bad.  Being able to exhibit strength to resist the temptations that would continually lure her in.  You can feel a sense of her pain, her weariness, her self doubt and frequent loneliness that would subsequently result after her routine of partying and laughter.  I see a desperate attempt to become whole again, healthy again mentally and  also physically.  The person she was before, that person in sobriety and the realization that she could feel good again without the need for alcohol.  Building her self esteem, searching to find and value that person again.  And the end result, isn’t that so worth it? That woman who can be her authentic self, and doesn’t require alcohol to be at her best.

Overcoming personal addictions, whatever they may be, whoever faces them in life, requires a positive mindset, undaunted determination and bottomline, consistent, hard work.   Always believe in yourself with the knowledge that it can be accomplished by you, you have the power within, and it can indeed, set you free!!

 

Takeaway Thought for the Week Ahead -

Takeaway positive thoughts empower you, give you strength, make you believe. Here is yours for the week. Say it, several times a day, every day, memorize it, write it down or put it in your phone. During the week, think about it, rely on it as you make it your own.

You have the power existing within you. The power to change your life for the better. The power to turn things around in your life. You have to want it with all you have inside and give it your full effort of heart and mind. It is not easy and takes ongoing work and determination. But, it can be accomplished once we set our mind to do it and is so worth it. Face your fears and believe in your your inner strength and resilience. Nothing is beyond your scope of accomplishment. You control your life choices, make them the healthiest, both physically and emotionally!

I cannot stress enough, the tremendous power of affirmative positive thinking in life. Positive self-talk and empowering beliefs over time can seriously help us change the way we think about ourselves. Like the well known term, “Self-Fulfilling Prophecy”, if we come to believe and act on it, it can become part of who you are, and what you want to be.

With "Sober" available to be on your personal playlist, it will be ready when you want to listen to it’s significant message!! Use it going forward!

Mindfulness & The Music/Questions to Ask Yourself & Self-Reflect -

After listening to the song, take some time and give these questions some serious thought. Your answers here will reveal a great deal to you going forward. Use this opportunity for helpful self reflection…

What is your personal relationship with alcohol usage?  Do you consider yourself a social drinker or something more involved?

Has it ever presented a “functioning” problem for you in your life?  If so, please explain.

Can you realistically and effectively control your use of alcohol?

Do you feel your overall personality changes when you use/overuse alcohol?  In what way? Positive? Negative?

How often per week do you engage in alcohol consumption?

Do you come from a family background that generally valued alcohol usage?

Do the people you surround yourself with, regularly use alcohol?

Do you feel you basically have good self esteem?  Does it need strengthening?

Is making change in your life difficult for you? Why do you feel that is?

Going forward, is there anything you personally feel the need to do, concerning the use of alcohol?

 

 * MORE RECOMMENDED SONG SELECTIONS ON ADDICTIONS *

“Old Ways”  by Demi Lovato

“Chandelier”  by Sia

“Recover”  by Natasha Bedingfield”

 

 

 

 

Recommended Reading for the Week About Music & Song

“The Power of Music: How It Can Benefit Health” by Honor Whiteman, medicalnewstoday.com, November 19, 2015.

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