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Say


Theme of the Week –

Open Communication

Song of the Week –

"Say" by John Mayer 

Song Therapeutics Analysis-

Good Sunday Evening Songtherapeutics friends!!

This classic from John Mayer, is a perfect combination of meaningful lyrics, a soft simple melody, yet weaved with beautiful instrumentation, one of my favorites from him.  Not an overabundance of lyrical content but, what is there, really says a lot.  I find the song somewhat haunting where it kind of floats in the air and really makes you think.  The title verse repetition, along with the simple comforting words that speak so profoundly in the message of this song.  They just stand out with that gentle musical backdrop.   Focusing on honest, open communication, getting your message out, and how basic and uncomplicated it is to achieve when we finally decide to go for it.  Some label the transparency, “I’m just putting it out there”, which is truth.  Saying it promotes so many emotionally healthy, essential factors in the process… having courage, determination, facing your fears, having faith, hope, and especially, believing in yourself.

When I listen to this song, I am also reminded about the potential for regrets.  The sadness of it.  The reality and finality of things that may never be able to be redone, no matter what.  Those “what ifs” that replay in our mind over and over.   Some of these regrets don’t ease with time.   Are we able to accept them and truly move on.  The truth is, people may struggle with them the rest of their lives.  Sometimes we learn by painful personal experiences which ultimately convince us to change.  How many of those regrets could be addressed by taking action with the power of your spoken words.  When we really think about it, so simple, so easy.  Could those words you say make a positive difference for the rest of your life.   Taking a stand, being proactive, saying what is in your mind and heart.  So many people will question themselves and doubt their gut instinct.  Looking inward, we need to discover what makes us question and distrust our instincts that we need to listen closely and carefully to.

Self-denials and personal defensiveness can sometimes result during our communication efforts.  That never helps and, will actually hold you back from where you need to go.  How many are basically excuses which block you from taking necessary action.   We may often hear those familiar phrases recommending open, honest communication such as, “don’t beat round the bush, don’t walk on eggshells”.   Yes, your communication style, the way you say it, is always going to be very important in the way your message is received by others.  Assess your personal communication style, whether it be passive, assertive or aggressive.  Assertive is the ideal goal we should set for ourselves and work towards.  The primary keys of assertive communication are open honesty, being direct, and remaining calm and good-natured when you speak.  People are going to be more likely to respond positively when you do.  Take that deep breath and a minute to focus before the words come out.  It takes patience, practice, and determination to have it become comfortable to use on a regular basis.  In the end it will be less work and people will respect you, because your words really reflect who you are.  The results will be well worth it

Think of it this way.  This may be your one and only.  The opportunity for meaningful communication improves when you simply, say what you think.  In the effort to promote healthy self-esteem, we also need to be comfortable with this mindset and it is a process.  Being ourselves, and saying what we think and feel is definitely empowering.  Be strong and face your fears.  Fears can unfortunately make decisions for you or stand in the way of what you need to say.  The time is now so, consider embracing it with an open mind.

*Bottomline, you know yourself and the choice is yours alone.  It’s always going to be up to you.  I hope this song, as well as the information presented here, helps you on your way!

Takeaway Thought for the Week Ahead -

Takeaway positive thoughts empower you, give you strength, make you believe. Here is yours for the week. Say it, several times a day, every day, memorize it, write it down or put it in your phone. During the week, think about it, rely on it as you make it your own.

If you don’t say it now, you may never have the opportunity again.  Don’t let it slip away, remember, it’s never too late.  Your words make the difference.

I cannot stress enough, the tremendous power of affirmative positive thinking in life. Positive self-talk and empowering beliefs over time can seriously help us change the way we think about ourselves. Like the well known term, “Self-Fulfilling Prophecy”, if we come to believe and act on it, it can become part of who you are, and what you want to be.

With "Say" available to be on your personal playlist, it will be ready when you want to listen to it’s significant message!! Use it going forward!

Mindfulness & The Music/Questions to Ask Yourself & Self-Reflect -

After listening to the song, take some time and give these questions some serious thought. Your answers here will reveal a great deal to you going forward. Use this opportunity for helpful self reflection…

“Are you a person who generally says what they need to?”

‘If not, what do you think holds you back?”

“What do you feel you are afraid of, if you’re honest?”

“Do you consider yourself overall a passive, assertive or aggressive communicator?”

” How do others respond to your communication efforts? Does it get you what you want?”

“Do you think you need to change your communication style?  If so, Why?”

“What have you learned about the importance of simply just, saying it?”

 

Recommended Reading for the Week About Music & Song

“6 Ways Music Affects Your Emotions”  by Shahram Heshmat PhD,  psychologytoday.com, June 17th -2019

“How Music Is A Catalyst for Renewal, Recovery and Rebirth”  by Christopher Bergland,  psychologytoday.com, April 24th, 2019

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