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Theme of the Week –

Friendship

Song of the Week –

"Real Friends" by Camila Cabello 

Song Therapeutics Analysis-

This song by Camila Cabello, is really full of a lot of emotional depth & feeling regarding the topic of true friendship.  Most people have an assortment of friends and acquaintances in their life.  The question then arises as to how many of those identified can actually be considered real, true friends, basically the kind that are there for you through thick and thin.

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I get a sense of some sadness and frustration within the lyrics as Cabello relates to an up and down struggle finding those special friends in her life, something we can all honestly relate to.  This is my personal take of what I feel her message in this song is.   I view it deals with the her feeling let down by friends she allows into her life.  Having that initial positive outlook but, ultimately over time, being disappointed when the “real” friendship sought after, might not be there in the end.  You get a sense that she is growing weary, trying to identify those friends and feeling as though it may never happen.  The level of trust has appeared to be impaired and ongoing reflective questions as to why the process is so challenging.  You see her want and need to connect, talk, understand and share thoughts and feelings with genuine friends she can count on.  Engaging in meaningless or insincere conversations are considered a waste of time and positive energy.  You also understand why with frustration, she may want to be alone and not reach out to others anymore.  However, I feel she wants to truly believe in the gift of real, true friendship again and will not give up.

With time, self reflection and awareness, we all realize the importance and value of establishing a core of real, true friends in our life.  The friends who accept you as you are, flaws and all.  The friends who are happy when you are happy and don’t feel the need to change you if you are not ready.  The friends you can count on to always be there to support and encourage you , especially when you are discouraged, weak, and can’t seem to go that extra step.   They will be there, waiting, ready to pick you up when you are struggling, down, or feeling immobilized.  People come to a discovery in time that those are the friendships that really matter.  Those are the friendships they have to identify, maintain, promote and nurture so that these essential ties remain part of our lives.   It takes continued work, effort, and commitment that may not always be simple or easy to do.  But, overall, it will be so worth it, having these superb friends in your life, hopefully forever!!

We also need to ask and assess, can we ourselves, truly become those “real” friends who are there for others?  If not, we may need to look inward and make some necessary change.  We also need to be up to the task and the challenge of giving that wonderful gift of ourselves to others.

 

Takeaway Thought for the Week Ahead -

Takeaway positive thoughts empower you, give you strength, make you believe. Here is yours for the week. Say it, several times a day, every day, memorize it, write it down or put it in your phone. During the week, think about it, rely on it as you make it your own.

True friendship is a gift to us all, whether given or received, we need to truly value & nurture it.  It doesn’t come along all the time and once solidly established with love, if taken care of, can last a lifetime!  Treasure it and be that quality forever friend who makes a difference in someone’s life….

I cannot stress enough, the tremendous power of affirmative positive thinking in life. Positive self-talk and empowering beliefs over time can seriously help us change the way we think about ourselves. Like the well known term, “Self-Fulfilling Prophecy”, if we come to believe and act on it, it can become part of who you are, and what you want to be.

With "Real Friends" available to be on your personal playlist, it will be ready when you want to listen to it’s significant message!! Use it going forward!

Mindfulness & The Music/Questions to Ask Yourself & Self-Reflect -

After listening to the song, take some time and give these questions some serious thought. Your answers here will reveal a great deal to you going forward. Use this opportunity for helpful self reflection…

What does real or true friendship mean to you?

In your life thus far, have you been disappointed with your choice of friends?

Can you say without doubt, that you have “real”  friends in your life?  Identify them…

Can you say in your life thus far that you have friends who have turned out negatively, that is, not been “real”  friends to you?  Identify them…

On a personal level, what do you find to be the characteristics you specifically look for in a friend?

Why do you feel that is so important to you when you assess friends in your life?

Have you had to ignore and/or remove friends that have not proven to be beneficial for you going forward?  In what way?

Do you consider yourself to be a real friend to others?  What do you try to do that makes you a “real” friend?

 

*MORE RECOMMENDED SONG SELECTIONS ON FRIENDSHIP*

“I Turn To You”  by Christina Aguilera

“Count On Me”  by Bruno Mars

“Lean on Me”  by Bill Withers

Recommended Reading for the Week About Music & Song

“How Music Bonds Us Together”  by Jill Suttie,  greatergood.berkeley.edu,  June 28th, 2016.

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