Everybody Hurts

Theme of the Week –

Hurt/Emotional Pain

Song of the Week –

"Everybody Hurts" by Michael Stipe/R.E.M. 

Song Therapeutics Analysis-

This classic song by Athens, Georgia band, REM, featuring lead singer Michael Stipe, is an absolute beauty and I use it frequently working with people dealing with anxiety and depression.  It’s slow, haunting tempo really makes you think and seems to capture the mood so perfectly.  The theme of the song focuses on the fact that we all have our universal struggles and stressors that we are forced to deal with every day.  Especially, realizing that we are not alone and that the reality that overwhelming hurt and pain may come to everyone at some point in their life.

Stipe relates to those long difficult days and sleepless nights worrying and not knowing exactly where to turn for help.  Wondering if he”ll be able to go on and unsure if he can manage anymore of the struggle.  Feeling as though everything around him is wrong, confusing, and not sure how to proceed going forward.  Anxiety can certainly overtake us, causing such tremendous self-doubt in our strength and questioning our ability to go on.  Anxieties realistically have to be embraced head on.  We have to deal with them, we have to process them to fully understand and plan a workable course ahead.

If we don’t take the time, awareness, and energy to work on our anxieties, they can often continue, and have the potential for developing into a full-fledged depression, which can be tricky to overcome.  No matter how daunting or frightening it may appear, you cannot give up or let go.  You must hang on with positivity and the ultimate hope and belief that somehow, someway, it will get better.  Also helped by the support and comfort that friends and family will provide you along the way.  You will find that beam of light at the end of the tunnel.  You will find your way out of the darkness.  Always believe.

Takeaway Thought for the Week Ahead -

Takeaway positive thoughts empower you, give you strength, make you believe. Here is yours for the week. Say it, several times a day, every day, memorize it, write it down or put it in your phone. During the week, think about it, rely on it as you make it your own.

No matter what you may be struggling with.  No matter how difficult or impossible it may seem.  Never ever lose hope in yourself and your ability to turn things around for the better.  Everyone goes through questions, struggles and crisis situations sometime in their life.  Know that you are not alone, and believe that it will get better!!!

I cannot stress enough, the tremendous power of affirmative positive thinking in life. Positive self-talk and empowering beliefs over time can seriously help us change the way we think about ourselves. Like the well known term, “Self-Fulfilling Prophecy”, if we come to believe and act on it, it can become part of who you are, and what you want to be.

With "Everybody Hurts" available to be on your personal playlist, it will be ready when you want to listen to it’s significant message!! Use it going forward!

Mindfulness & The Music/Questions to Ask Yourself & Self-Reflect -

After listening to the song, take some time and give these questions some serious thought. Your answers here will reveal a great deal to you going forward. Use this opportunity for helpful self reflection…

How do you generally deal with your personal anxiety?

Do you feel it tends to overwhelm you?  If yes, why is that?

Are you currently dealing with any specific anxieties or depression?

What do you do to manage your anxieties or depression more effectively?

How does that help you make things better?

Do you have the tendency to reach out to others when you are feeling anxious or depressed?

If not, why do you keep these feelings to yourself?

If you had any advice for anyone struggling with anxiety or depression, what would it be?



“Breathin’ ”  by Ariana Grande

“Save Myself”  by Ed Sheeran

“Million Reasons”  by Lady Gaga



Recommended Reading for the Week About Music & Song

“Using Music in Times of Anxiety”  by Scott Redding,,  May 5, 2020

-For additional reading resources click here Readings


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