Theme of the Week –
Song of the Week –
Song Therapeutics Analysis-
There are a wide variety of therapeutic songs out there concerning relationship breakups. This one by the Script, is probably one of the most reflective songs and lyrics about the complicated break up process.
Audio Version by Nancy!
Overall, it touches so perfectly on a variety of emotions people experience with a break up. As a listener, you can identify with these common emotions, gain improved awareness, self discovery & especially, support from the meaning implied here. The resounding message in the song relates to the assortment of feelings one has when a break up occurs, that parties involved may not take it the same way and may experience great difficulty with the aftermath.
This song tells the story of a man who is really struggling with understanding and accepting his break up. You immediately get a glimpse of his pain, his trying to make sense of it, just getting by, and needing strength to keep going. You get a sense of time dragging by for him, along with his descriptions of emotionally falling apart, grief, loss, devastation, sleepless nights, and enduring difficult days. You soon become aware that he still desperately loves his partner and feels lost without her being in his life. She, on the other hand, has apparently moved on, is content and happy, having found another person to replace him in her love life. When he laments that he has lost the best part of who he was, you get an idea of how deep and consuming, his grief and loss is.
What I always take away from this song is a hope for universal acceptance of what we may not be able to change, no matter how much we try and desperately want it to happen. We may not be able to understand or justify the reasons concerning it, but one thing is certain. We have no healthy choice available to us other than accept the reality of what has happened. In this case, accept the fact that both parties are at different crossroads, one seriously struggling to understand , and the other ready to go on with their life after what has happened. What alternative do we have but to accept? Otherwise, the emotional pain that we create for ourselves may actually become unbearable. So, we have to work actively on acceptance process with the hope that life will be better, that feelings of pain and loss will improve over time and one will have the full capability to be happy again by starting over. We cannot lose that hope. We need that positivity, that unwavering belief in our strength and abilities and that undaunted determination to go forward. We should never give up and in that regard, continually keep trying to find the light ahead. It will be waiting for you.
Takeaway Thought for the Week Ahead -
Takeaway positive thoughts empower you, give you strength, make you believe. Here is yours for the week. Say it, several times a day, every day, memorize it, write it down or put it in your phone. During the week, think about it, rely on it as you make it your own.
With breakups, regardless of who may have initiated it, or if it was mutual , it is important to remember this, with time you will adjust, and you will, accept. You have to get beyond it to be at your best. You have the ability to be strong and resilient within you. The need to continue on with positivity and hope, learning more about yourself in the process going forward. Always believe!
I cannot stress enough, the tremendous power of affirmative positive thinking in life. Positive self-talk and empowering beliefs over time can seriously help us change the way we think about ourselves. Like the well known term, “Self-Fulfilling Prophecy”, if we come to believe and act on it, it can become part of who you are, and what you want to be.
With "Breakeven (Falling to Pieces) by the Script" available to be on your personal playlist, it will be ready when you want to listen to it’s significant message!! Use it going forward!
Mindfulness & The Music/Questions to Ask Yourself & Self-Reflect -
After listening to the song, take some time and give these questions some serious thought. Your answers here will reveal a great deal to you going forward. Use this opportunity for helpful self reflection…
Have you experienced a relationship break-up?
Take a few minutes to reflect on your thoughts here. Do you feel the breakup proceeded positively or negatively?
If positive, describe what you feel made it work? What did you feel made the difference?
If negative, describe what you feel made it an unfavorable experience.
Was it a mutual breakup? What were the specific circumstances.
What personal struggles did you face after your breakup? Were you able to resolve them in time? How was that accomplished?
Did you learn any life lessons for the future in adjusting to your past breakups?
In the aftermath of a breakup, how do you approach dealing with a potential breakup now?
*MORE RECOMMENDED SONG SELECTIONS ON BREAKUPS/LETTING GO*
“Nothing Compares 2 U” by Sinead O’Connor
“Go Your Own Way” by Fleetwood Mac
“Cry Me A River” by Justin Timberlake
Recommended Reading for the Week About Music & Song
“Heartbreak and Healing: Why We Love Breakup Songs” by Cristalle Sese, PsyD, goodtherapy.org, June 5, 2014
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